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Reframing Shyness

Updated: Nov 18, 2023

An interview with children's book author, Kay B!


The Confidence Loop's author interview series is back this week to share an inspiring conversation with the talented children's book author, Kay B! In this exclusive interview, Kay unveils the personal inspiration behind her latest creation, sharing intimate details of her own journey as a shy child turned accomplished author. As she delves into the heart of her narrative, Kay imparts invaluable lessons on embracing shyness, breaking stereotypes, and fostering inclusivity.

Join me as we explore the depths of Kay's storytelling and glean practical advice for parents, teachers, and caregivers seeking to empower shy children. Discover the magic within the pages of her book, offering not only a comforting reassurance to the quiet souls but also a guide to building lasting connections. Stay tuned for a glimpse into the world of "My Shyness Won't Stop Me" and the inspiring wisdom Kay shares for aspiring children's book authors. The Confidence Loop is honored to bring you this conversation with a talented author dedicated to making a difference, one story at a time.

My Shyness Won't Stop Me: Amara Makes Friends

Written by Kay B.

Illustrated & Designed by Adrianna Cifuentes & Juan Sierra

Interview with Kay B.

Q - Can you please share your inspiration for wanting to create this story?

A - My journey as an author started because of my kids, who inspired six out of my seven published works. But my latest one, “My Shyness Won’t Stop Me: Amara Makes Friends,” is more personal. It’s inspired by my own experiences, my personality, and a specific challenge I faced.


Q - Did you experience shyness as a child? If so, what do you wish someone had told you back then?

A - Growing up, I was a shy kid, and that hasn't changed much as an adult. Instead of fading away, you just figure out how to handle it better with age.

Approaching people, networking, and making friends has always been a bit challenging for me. Fortunately, I've been surrounded by kind people and have made friends over the years. However, even when I try, I often feel extremely nervous and worry about coming off as awkward. Adding to the difficulty is the societal notion that being shy is a negative thing, which isn't true.

Looking back, I wish someone had told me it's perfectly okay to be shy and feel nervous in social situations. I wish there had been more encouragement to take my time connecting with others, emphasizing that there's nothing wrong with being the way I am.

Moreover, society should spotlight and celebrate shy personalities. This could help kids see successful individuals who share similar traits and inspire them to believe they can achieve significant things.


Q - What is the main message you want to convey to young readers with this story?

A - I wrote this story for multiple reasons:

  1. To reassure kids who consider themselves “shy” that it’s perfectly fine to feel that way - everyone is unique and we navigate all situations in our own way; key is finding what makes you comfortable.

  2. To offer a strategy for shy children to connect with others and build friendships - I envision this book as a helpful guide for them.

  3. To challenge the misconception that being shy is a flaw - there’s nothing wrong with it.

  4. To instill in children the value of accepting all personality types, fostering an environment of understanding and inclusivity.


Q - The opening notes and follow-up resources you provide in this book are really helpful! What advice would you give to parents, teachers, and caregivers on how to use your book as a tool for helping shy children increase their confidence?

A - I am so glad you found my additional resources helpful. First and foremost, parents, teachers, and caregivers should understand that if their child or student is shy, it’s critical to respect that and help them be comfortable with who they are.

I recommend using my book as a tool to show shy kids in your life that feeling shy is completely okay - everyone has their own way of handing things. It can also be a guide to offer advice on tackling situations that make them nervous, like meeting new people or presenting to a group.

Additionally, it serves as a way for children who don’t typically feel shy to develop empathy for those who do. This book provides a glimpse into the world of someone who experiences shyness.


Q - In the spirit of "authors supporting authors", what advice would you give to aspiring children's book authors who are just starting out? Any key insights or tips that you'd like to share with them?

A - Go for it! If you have a story you want to tell, just got for it. There are many resources, free and paid, to help you navigate the process - you just have to start.

You won’t have all the answers from the start - it’s a learning process. I’m still learning too!

One thing I highly advise is investing in an editor and illustrator. It makes a world of a difference in the quality of your product.


Q - What is one of your favorite children's books and why?

A - This is a tough question! There are so so many amazing books out there, both traditionally published and self-published. If you don’t mind, I’ll list a few:


Thank you to Kay B. for sharing her journey and insights with The Confidence Loop!

To learn more about this author, please check out her website at You can also follow her on social media @littlekidsbiglessons, and her book, "My Shyness Won't Stop Me: Amara Makes Friends" can be found on Amazon!

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